Holidays and Lonliness
Granted, this may be the hardest part of the year for those of us who are transgender and no longer close to our families.
And granted, it may make the holiday easier going to friends’ homes each year, but we all know that it’s at best masking the fact that we’re NOT spending the holiday with our living, breathing relatives who have chosen to NOT invite us, or even THINK about us when it comes to the holiday season.
But we have someone who hasn’t forgotten us. Someone who loves us EXACTLY for who we really are, that part of us that we may be even afraid to share with other people, but He knows who we are.
The LORD Jesus has made it clear that He loves us, we are His children—how can He NOT love us?
You may have friends who invite you to their home because they know you’re alone. It’s easy to stay home and feel sorry for yourself because you ARE alone, but you’re not going to benefit by staying home and wallow in how sad you are because you don’t have family to spend the holidays with.
So embrace your friends who invite you. They are, in their own way (and knowing it or not) being the very face of Christ. Yes, it’s not the same. Friends can’t replace family. But these are people who CARE about you, vs. people who don’t care about you enough to welcome you.
So follow the path of least resistance. Yes, it’s not perfect—but people DO love and care about you. They may not be family, but they are friends—and they are reaching out in the only way they know how. Don’t reject their attempt to show love toward you in the only way they know. At least they’re trying.
And even if you don’t have any family or friends inviting you, there are people or organizations welcoming people who have no one to spend Thanksgiving with. Spend it with them…and THANK them. They sacrificed their day to spend it there for you. Want to make it really special? Freak them out and ask if you can come around (right then and there) and help them serve others!
Giving meaning to the holidays doesn’t always have to be about you, but belonging… I get it.
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What a beautiful post, Laurie! I hope people take it to heart. And I wish you were close enough to come and be with us!