It’s NOT an unusual story to be shunned by your family when you tell them that you are transgender. The very concept is just so impossible to comprehend that unfortunately, they think you must be wrong and have turned your back on God. They beg you to pray, they have their Pastor pray for you, NOTHING you say really gets listened to – and when you decide to live out your life as the person you really are they reject you. They kick you out of the house or perhaps refuse to see you ever again – in my case my parents and brothers have never seen me since I transitioned 25 years ago. Read more “Rejected By Your Family? Go Get a New One!”
It saddens me to see Christians who come out with absolute certainty and a sense of righteousness tell another person who professes Christ that they are NOT a Christian because they see something in that person’s life that they don’t like or agree with.
I remember when I was a kid I would see somebody smoke outside of a church and I couldn’t imagine how that person could be a Christian. I mean, how could that even be possible? I was taught our body is a temple (but apparently sweet tea, fried chicken, pizza and chocolate chip cookies are allowed in “the temple”.) The same was true for alcohol. Even in high school I didn’t understand how a Christian could drink beer or wine, only non-Christians did that, right? Read more “When Christians Think They’re God”
I’d like to introduce you to my brother (whom I’ve never met) from another mother in New York, Andy Hill. He attends a church called Forefront, and recently they made a video of him telling his story about the church. What he shared about feeling unconditionally loved AND unconditionally accepted at his church is my goal for shall we say the more conservative evangelical churches and their Christian brothers and sisters who are transgender. I share a similar story with him, and totally identify when he talks about how he wouldn’t have been able to share his pain with churches he had attended in the past. That should make Christians at those churches and all churches like that pause and beg God for forgiveness, that someone – a Christian brother who was hurting didn’t feel safe or welcomed enough to come to them. Many in the church are uncomfortable with the subject – I get it. But that doesn’t mean it’s right or ok, and part of my goal with this site is to gently and lovingly get people to think about what they believe to be from God, and does it line up with what we as Christians are supposed to do, love and accept one another. Replace gay with transgender in the video and there you have my heart. Well said Andy!
I read an article by a Pastor in Michigan who used that word in describing other Christians who didn’t accept their transgender brothers and sisters. She accused them of CHOOSING fear and hate rather than love and compassion. In my eye, she’s just as ignorant as those Christians she accuses of fear and hate.
It’s ignorance about WHY someone is transgender that makes people uncomfortable Read more “Christians Opposed to Transgender People Don’t Automatically HATE!”
If you attend a church that is not (or as far as you can tell) affirming of transgender folks in their midst, Austen Hartke (AKA Austen Lionheart) has posted a great video on various ways of testing the water at your church. He has several wonderful ideas you can try to get a feel for just how sensitive a subject it is among others at your church, from the very subtle to having THE conversation with your Pastor (something I have some experience with myself).
So go check it out – I recommend you subscribe to his channel so you get notified when a new post is up (once a week.) He has very good material presented thoughtfully and in a very friendly, non-confrontational manner. You can’t help but like him.
(I’ve omitted my personal information, everything else is exactly as I literally MAILED it TODAY to the Governor.)
Dear Governor Abbot,
I live in Lakeway. I’m politically conservative (I voted for you and Ted Cruz), I’ve been a conservative Christian all my life and attend and serve at one of the churches responsible for the Good Friday event at the Erwin Center, and I’m transgender.
I’m NOT an activist. I have a small computer repair business. My clients don’t know I’m transgender. A few pastors at church know I’m transgender (because I didn’t want it to ever be an issue) but no one in the membership knows. I’m very private about it, writing you is well – unusual to say the least. Read more “My Letter to the Governor of Texas over the BATHROOM Issue”
I think about my parents every now and then. I wouldn’t say often – maybe a few times a month.
Fortunately I often FORGET that I’m getting pretty close to 60 years old. I certainly don’t feel it and HOPE I don’t look it.
But thank God for public education in the 60’s I CAN DO MATH! My parents are just about 80. All my grandparents passed away in their early 80’s. I sometimes cry (ok – yes like now) when I think about the possibility of either of them passing away and never ever speaking again. It’s always been a hope of mine that we could at some time reunite in some way – in ANY way. Read more “My Parents are Alive but, well? …I Don’t Know”
It’s not a stretch to think that if you’re a Christian who’s transgender, that you’ve been hurt by Christ’s church. The church can be a place of amazing love and comfort, or a source of horrible pain and suffering – totally contrary to what our Lord wants, but the problem with the church isn’t Jesus, the problem with the church is PEOPLE. And since that includes you and me, yes, WE are part of the problem. John Pavlovitz is a pastor and has written a great article about how do you trust the very place that hurt you so badly. I encourage you to read it…http://goo.gl/Nnzxfd
Let me start by saying I don’t even know how to properly define the groups, but if I call it the “Christian Right” and the “Christian Left” will that suffice? I’m not sure those are very accurate terms at all but I think most of us get the gist of what I’m trying to describe.
I sit here and just have to ask myself “what in the h— are we all being taught?” Read more “Why Are We Christians at WAR with Each Other?”
Today’s political environment was the seed for this, but the truth of it extends WAY beyond politics. Frankly I like the BLUNTNESS of the New Living Translation of Proverbs 21:23 “Watch your tongue and keep your mouth shut, and you will stay out of trouble.”
I attribute MUCH of the overt nastiness in our culture today to social media. In a somewhat anonymous way can say whatever we want, and don’t have to see (or seem to care) how it may affect another person nor feel any repercussion from our words. “It’s MY OPINION, like it or not!” We can post it, we can “like” it, we can “share” it, we can tweet it. All from the comfort of our tiny, little innocent phone or our computer and there you go – we’ve had our say and I don’t care how it may affect you. Read more “Christians, We Need a Lot of Work on Our Tongue”