It was a very hard thing for me to hear, a family at my church informed an elder that they were leaving our church, and I was the reason. Read more “When Someone Leaves Your Church Because of You”
I’m struck at how we Christians, ALL of us Christians if asked would be pretty quick to say “yes”, that we unconditionally love and accept our Christian brothers and sisters. Maybe you’re reading this and are thinking to yourself “well I certainly do!” Read more “UNCONDITIONAL Love and Acceptance CAN’T Have Conditions”
The other day I inadvertently sent a link from my TransfiguredHearts.com website to a client of mine. About half an hour later I realized what I had just done, and after a several more moments of panic, she responded back Read more “It is NOT the Job of the Church to Drive People Away from God!”
I’m sure you’ve heard it before – “Men and women are wired differently”. What a man thinks, wants and needs can be very different from what a woman may think, want or need. Almost 25 years ago John Gray published his now famous book “Men Are from Mars, Woman Are from Venus” to help men and women better understand each other in relationships. And the reason the book was even necessary (and as a result so popular) is because God has made the sexes unique BEYOND the obvious physical differences. At the same time, we live in a society that tries to deny that those differences do exist, it can get very confusing. Read more “People Can’t Re-Wire Themselves, It’s Been Tried. What’s Done is Done.”
You read that right – my pinky toe. And to be specific – the pinky toe on my right foot. You might be trying to think ahead and are imagining me stubbing my toe against something, or maybe I dropped something heavy (like a hammer) on it and the ensuing pain led to some brilliant revelation that I’m about to tickle your brain with.
Well you’re wrong. No pain inducing events involving my little pinky toe are the catalyst for these words. What I’m talking about is a dreaded form of clinodactyly. Oh the horror you say? More likely your thinking “what on earth is clinodactyly”? Read more “What I Learned From My Pinky Toe”
Growing up in a conservative environment when you’re transgender can really mess you up. When I say that, I mean you may be told by people directly if they know you’re transgender or you just may pick it up based on how they react to what they see on the news and in social media or perhaps even hear in church. And here is what you’re being told or inferring from what others say: “God didn’t make you to be that way”, therefore you’re sinning if you decide to transition to the gender you really are or if you’ve already transitioned, continue to live as who you are. I felt that way growing up, and I felt that way as a grownup. I even got married hoping that would help somehow take away what it was that I felt inside. Read more “You Can Stop Condemning Yourself Now”
Now don’t freak out. There are plenty of things in the world that aren’t normal. Being left-handed is not normal. Having red hair is not normal. Being double-jointed isn’t normal. And that’s ok. People may say “oh, I didn’t know you were left-handed” or “you’re double-jointed? Cool!” These are all common enough (and non-threatening) that most people just forget about it and never cared one way or the other.
Then there are those who perhaps were born with physical or mental disabilities, autism, down syndrome, stuttering. Others may later develop symptoms from MS or Parkinson’s. These can sometimes make people in the general population a little uncomfortable. Maybe they feel like they shouldn’t look or they don’t know what to do or say so they tend to avoid those people. Read more “You DO Understand You’re Not Normal Don’t You?”
It’s been a tough question for me, and maybe for you. “Why can’t you just leave it alone? Why do you feel the need to tell people about your past?” Well, for the clients in my business, casual acquaintances and 99% of my church – I don’t. But I can’t disagree with the fact that I do feel better when people I love, care about and have a close relationship with understand my WHOLE history. I would hate for them to somehow discover my past later through a 3rd party and to feel a sense of total dishonesty on my part – as if they didn’t know me at all.
My best friend at church knew (I later learned) there was something “off” about me at church the day before I told her my WHOLE history. She didn’t know it at the time, but I was looking around inside the building that Sunday and just taking it all in because it might have been my last Sunday at that church – and it made sad and just a little weepy. THAT is someone who knows you and why I wanted her to know my FULL history, because then it all made sense to her. Read more “Being KNOWN is a Blessing from God”
The nature of what I do, who I want to reach makes it a little complicated at this point in time. Primarily because a big part of what I feel called to do is help provide a way for what would be called “conservative evangelical” churches to be able to open up their hearts for Christians who are transgender. Well – I GO to a church like this and I LOVE it. My Pastor knows who I am and he knows my heart. At the same time, he has a large church to shepherd and navigate through these difficult waters. This is NOT an easy job. My heart goes out to him. I’m sure there are many who not knowing me would have an issue with me being a member of the church. Read more “Why Do I Not Give Personal Details?”
Yep, I’m pretty sure He said it. My guess is right after Eve and Adam took that bite from the fruit. If you haven’t read why I believe God Doesn’t Make Mistakes, that might help what I say here make better sense.
God’s perfect plan was that Adam and Eve would stay away from the tree – they didn’t. They invited Sin into the world, and here we are. Because I was born transgender, I never felt I could be a worthy representative for our Lord. I always felt that if I talked to someone about Jesus and somehow they later found out that I was transgender, it would invalidate anything I said. Read more “Then God Said, “Let Us Make Lemonade””