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God Doesn’t Have Boobs

Well-meaning Christians who don’t understand how someone can be transgender often quote the Bible to defend their dislike, disapproval or fear of someone who is transgender. It gives them a safe and what they feel is a Biblically based reason to justify how they feel about people who are transgender.

I’ll admit that there a few Christians out there (I know, I’m being kind) who just like to use the Bible to bully other people as if to let the world know just how holy they are – because they understand EXACTLY what God meant for every person in every situation. But those people are fortunately very few compared to the majority who would, if you asked them, admit that they simply don’t know everything. Read more “God Doesn’t Have Boobs” →

Being “Cut-Out” As a Christian

A friend of mine with a very talented daughter who rides horses posted a video recently showing an amazing demonstration of a cutting horse.

I didn’t even know what a “cutting horse” was or what it did (as a Texan of 15 years I should probably be ashamed for not knowing what this was.)

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Disappointing People Doesn’t Mean You’re Disappointing God

Disappointing people is easy to do. In fact it’s so easy to do, you don’t have to do a thing. You don’t have to say a word. All you have to do is be your own loving self and people will turn on you in a heartbeat.

When you’re transgender, sometimes that’s all it takes to disappoint those around you. Perhaps you’ve kept it to yourself for a long time trying to be “normal”, perhaps you’ve transitioned already and new acquaintances eventually learn that you were known by another name (and another gender) in the past, and they find themselves disappointed in you for reasons they may not even be able to verbalize. Read more “Disappointing People Doesn’t Mean You’re Disappointing God” →

The Church of Pain

First, let me say that yes, I’m going to be a little hard on you Church in this post. Believe me, I’ve spent a fair share of time DEFENDING the Church from people who would call it hateful and yes, even evil. Not understanding something like how someone can be transgender doesn’t automatically make Christians hateful and evil, but how that lack of understanding is expressed can certainly have some severe effects.

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Is it Christianity or Behavior Modification?

Pastor Sharon Bollum headed a project called 40 Churches in 40 Weeks. She visited churches and interviewed pastors from all over the country. This was a great interview (only 8 minutes long) with Pastor Andy Hale about keeping rules (the Law) and growing Christians.

Pastor Sharon Bollum’s project can be found on Facebook at www.facebook.com/40ChurchesIn40Weeks and on the web at www.sharonbollum.com

I Hate Not Being Able to See What’s Ahead!

Anyone who knows me knows I love to drive. Maybe it’s because I was born in California. I’m pretty sure they put a little motor oil in your veins the first hour of your life in the hospital. A good friend of mine in Sacramento has this beautiful Candy Apple Red Mustang that she actually built a separate garage/barn just to park it in and protect it – so it’s not just a guy thing in California. In California, we just love cars

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Today’s Church, Its Pharisees and the Outcasts

Let me start this with Luke 7:36-39 “One of the Pharisees asked him to eat with him, and he went into the Pharisee’s house and reclined at table. And behold, a woman of the city, who was a sinner, when she learned that he was reclining at table in the Pharisee’s house, brought an alabaster flask of ointment, and standing behind him at his feet, weeping, she began to wet his feet with her tears and wiped them with the hair of her head and kissed his feet and anointed them with the ointment. Now when the Pharisee who had invited him saw this, he said to himself, “If this man were a prophet, he would have known who and what sort of woman this is who is touching him, for she is a sinner.”” (English Standard Version)

The “him” is Jesus. But my point in these verses is the Pharisee.

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I’ll Take Sticks and Stones Anytime!

We’ve all heard the phrase “Sticks and stones will break my bones, but words will never harm me.” It’s an interesting quote. It dates back to the late 1800’s and comes from a publication of the African Methodist Episcopal (AME) Church. The thought behind it was that insults (the use of the “N” word was coming into common usage) can’t really hurt you, they are mere words – unlike physically taking a beating.

But you know what? Bones heal. Those physical wounds heal.

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It’s a New Year With New Hopes and Dreams

2018. A new year. A year full of possibilities. A year full of dreams. A year full of hope.

Most everyone struggles with family members at one time or another, that’s just life. Being transgender can add to those struggles and lead to conflicting opinions coming from every direction leading you to fear, uncertainty and doubt.

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I Needed Someone to Cry With!

I was sitting with my friend Julie a few nights ago who was sharing about the time she learned her grandmother, whom she deeply loved had stage four cancer and about six months to live.

…the thought of having to face her grandmother knowing death was in her future just brought the tears out again.

Julie’s grandmother was in the hospital as was Julie when they got the news.  When she heard of the diagnosis and the prognosis, Julie was grief stricken. After all, she works basically as a grief and guidance counselor for individuals and their families at this very hospital facing situations exactly like this. As a result she knew what it meant, and what her grandmother would be going through the next several months.

But even with all her knowledge and background in this very subject, Julie couldn’t even go into her grandmother’s room, she couldn’t turn off the tears and didn’t want to have her grandmother see her falling apart in sadness and grief. She wanted to be someone who could be strong and give support to her grandmother. Read more “I Needed Someone to Cry With!” →