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Mom and Family

I’ve written about family and holidays before, and yesterday, the day before Mother’s day, I was again filled with the significance of family.

Each year I send my mom either a card or flowers for Mother’s day, and likewise on her birthday. I have her home address and as far as I know it’s still current since I’ve never received a notice that the address is wrong. It’s going on 28 years since I’ve seen my parents and just about that long since we’ve spoken, I’ve written them and they continue to choose silence toward me. The same for my brothers. In fact, for the first 30 years of their lives my two nephews didn’t even know I existed, and we live in the same state (well, one lives now on the other side of the state line in Oklahoma, but I extend grace to him since he grew up in Texas). Read more “Mom and Family” →

Who’s in Charge of the Stonings at Your Church?

A popular verse in the Bible used as a weapon against people in the church who are transgender is Deuteronomy 22:5 “A woman must not wear men’s clothing, nor a man wear women’s clothing, for the Lord your God detests anyone who does this.” (NIV) Another is Genesis 1:27 “…male and female He created them”. Read more “Who’s in Charge of the Stonings at Your Church?” →

Fitting in Vs. Belonging

A couple of weeks ago I drove from Austin to Houston (about 3 hours each way) to help an older client with a new computer and with using her cell phone. The trip gave me an opportunity to listen to Brené Brown’s book “Braving the Wilderness” (I’m a big fan of audiobooks, and you can get mine, “God Doesn’t Make Mistakes”, for free if you don’t already have an Audible account, but enough of the commercial). Brené in one chapter talked about the difference between “fitting in” and “belonging”. THIS was what exactly had been on my heart for several days, so though I’ve owned the book for almost a year, it wasn’t an accident that just now I got around to listening to it. Read more “Fitting in Vs. Belonging” →

We Can Do Better Church!

Eric is transgender. He is also married and having a difficult time making sense of his gender identity, his relationship with God and his relationship with his wife. Knowing of not a single Christian leader anywhere in his area that he could talk to, he reached out to a pastor he discovered in a TED Talk that was on YouTube. As it happens, this is the same pastor who wrote the foreword to my book. The pastor was just leaving on a sabbatical for several weeks, and asked me to reach out to Eric.

Read more “We Can Do Better Church!” →

A Man at My Church Died

Most of my posts are meant for a targeted audience. They may be for Christians who are transgender because of my own experience or they may be for evangelical Christians. Often I get public or private replies from people telling me they are so sorry for “what I’ve gone through”, even though it really wasn’t about me.

But today was a day of struggle for me, and so I’ll admit—that this post is about me, or at least what I feel.

A man at my church died on Monday.

He had a wife and six kids.

Read more “A Man at My Church Died” →

I’m Crazy! I’m Giving Away My Book!

I’m so crazy I’m GIVING IT AWAY! That’s right, my book “God Doesn’t Make Mistakes” will be free (the Kindle version) today (Tuesday Feb. 5) through Saturday. You can download the digital version of my book and can read it on pretty much anything (PC, Mac, phone, tablet or Kindle). You don’t have to READ it this week, but this is the time to get it and you can read it later.

But there’s ANOTHER way to get the book free. If you’re not already an Audible customer, you can get the AUDIOBOOK for free ANYTIME by signing up for the free 30 day trial and downloading it. You can cancel after downloading if you want and pay nothing, but you get to KEEP the book forever!

And of course, if you prefer a paperback or hardback, you can always buy a physical copy of the book as well.

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The Audiobook is HERE!

It’s finally here, the audiobook version of “God Doesn’t Make Mistakes”! And if you don’t have an Audible account, you can even get it for FREE!

Just CLICK THIS LINK and sign up for the free 30-day trial, and you can get the book for free. It you want to cancel the Audible membership at the end of your trial, you get to KEEP the book forever. What a deal! You might even learn to love audiobooks. You can also GIFT an audiobook to someone (just in time for Christmas).

The great thing is you can listen to it on your Apple or Android phone or tablet, your computer, even Alexa devices and Sonos speakers.

So go to Audible and check out the sample on the page. Of course, the paperback, hardback and Kindle versions are always available at Amazon.

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Are YOU Ready to Come Out of the Closet?

No, I’m not talking to those who are transgender—I’m speaking to the friends and family of someone who is transgender.

Guess what? You just might be a lot like the apostle Peter. I know I would LOVE to be a lot like the apostle Peter. I mean, Jesus told him when he changed his name to Peter that “on this rock I will build my church, and the gates of hell shall not prevail against it.” Wow! That’s pretty good company to be associated with, right?

Read more “Are YOU Ready to Come Out of the Closet?” →

Holidays and Lonliness

Granted, this may be the hardest part of the year for those of us who are transgender and no longer close to our families.

And granted, it may make the holiday easier going to friends’ homes each year, but we all know that it’s at best masking the fact that we’re NOT spending the holiday with our living, breathing relatives who have chosen to NOT invite us, or even THINK about us when it comes to the holiday season. Read more “Holidays and Lonliness” →

Beware of the “but…”

It’s the “but” that ruins every sentence. It’s the “but” that no matter what came before it, no longer matters. It’s the “but” that tells you what I just said was my way of softening what it is I really want to say.

Beware of the “but.”

Pastor Mark Wingfield of Wilshire Baptist Church in Dallas (who wrote the foreword to my book) has written a great article at BaptistNews.com about how a mother of a transgender teen was told by her pastor that “We love everybody here. But it’s still a sin”.

He talks about what IS sin and why being transgender is NOT. I hope you’ll take a moment to read it and share it.

Why being transgender is not a sin

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