Being Transgender can Suck – But Whatcha’ Gonna Do?
There are lots of people that will tell you that being transgender is great, that there’s nothing wrong with you and everyone else is wrong. Well (and I know this might upset some of my transgender brothers and sisters) truth be told, there IS something wrong with us. That doesn’t mean we crawl into a hole and die, but it does mean we’ve got a tough road to travel and we shouldn’t shy away from it – it’s just our road. WE. ARE. DIFFERENT. PURE genetics and perfect gestation would probably give us a totally binary (men born as males and women born as females) environment. But guess what – we don’t live in a world of perfect genetics and certainly a lot can go wrong in the womb.
Being transgender doesn’t make us bad people. Being transgender doesn’t make us an enemy of God nor an enemy of people around us. But we have to accept that yes, we’re not quite like MOST of the people in the world. We’re different. You DO understand that all of us as people tend not to like things that are different. I don’t like sushi. Don’t think I’ve ever even had sushi, but it just LOOKS like something I wouldn’t like – raw fish and seaweed, yuk! I have to admit it – I’m human. So are you and so are all the people we’re surrounded by.
Here’s the big news – we’re the first ones to know that we’re not like everyone else and we KNOW it’s not just to be contrarian, but it’s because it’s just how we’re wired, it’s who we are.
So cut the others who don’t get it some slack. I don’t like sushi, I don’t like spiders (and I’ve never picked one up) – it’s just a fact. There were GENERATIONS of people who tortured people who were left handed and forced them to use their right hands because there “must be something wrong with them”. I know we would all like things to change TOMORROW and be better. Tomorrow, they will, in such a small way that none of us may notice, but it WILL get better. It will take a LOT of tomorrows before a change is noticeable, but change WILL happen. If we all are LUCKY we might see a substantial change in our lifetime – and I don’t mean legally, I mean in the hearts and minds of people. When hearts and minds are changed you don’t need laws, and that should be our goal. Be nice to people, don’t return hate with hate – that accomplished nothing. Return hate with love – that really messes people up because it doesn’t make sense to them. When people EXPECT you to come back at them in a nasty way and you don’t, it makes it hard for them to fight back because they don’t have anything to fight.
So be patient my brothers and sisters. I know we want it all NOW, but we may be a generation or two away from seeing what we would hope to see today. I may not live to see that day, but this is how it’s really done. Show others around you what a wonderful person you are. Show them how much you genuinely care about them. Stop throwing rocks and start delivering bread – you’ll change more hearts that way. Stop telling people how terrible they are and start asking them how can you help them. THIS is how you bring about genuine change. People who are left-handed don’t need laws to protect them and nor do we if we can just show the love and respect that all people want and deserve and think beyond ourselves.
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I agree with this, I knew I was different in my younger years, grew up in the 60’s, back then it is Male or Female, very little information was avaliable back then. I can attest to the left hand issue, I am wired left handed, when I was in 1st grade I was forced to wright right handed, I through left hand, i shoot left hand, my left eye is my dominant eye, but with all this I was forced to wright right handed, and still do to this day, yes I can wright left handed, not well.
The problem for so many transgender people is that there is NO EASY ROAD. Yes, transition is difficult, it takes time, resources, and patience, but look at the alternative. Transgender children often have great difficulty hiding their true selves, and are often bullied. Bullied is the wrong word, it implies that A bully threatens. For too many transgender children, the experience is more like being violently assaulted by nearly ALL the boys in the class. Such attacks aren’t an occasional thing, they are a daily occurrence and sometimes even more often. For a transgender girl, Recess, Lunch, and Gym can… Read more »
I remember how hard it was to find any information back in the 60s and 70s. And I really wanted it. I remember people giving me pictures of ugly transvestites, drag queens, and articles in adult magazines.
I remember looking up transsexual on the web and being flooded with porn. This is the perception many have of us. Most have NO IDEA what life was like before transition. Even transgender fiction tries to gloss over the bullying.
This is encouraging and quite as I have come to view things. Early-on, God’s Spirit made is clear to me that though in many ways I could be seen to have a developmental defect, yet in God’s I am a lovely and valuable person and that God has a purpose for this in my life. Through years of walking with God through my transition, I have come to see being transgender as a gift, possibly I am “Trans in the Spirit?” Much as the man born blind who was healed by Jesus (John 9), I too have been receiving my… Read more »
I’m new to this site, have been a Christian for 37 years & aware of being transgender in some form since I was 3. 36 of my 37 years were spent married to a marvellous lady also a strong Christian who while not accepting my disposition at least tolerated me being her husband, as long as I was either keeping it at bay or trying to get myself ‘fixed’. That was until Jan this year when while in UK visiting relatives, she sent me an email saying marriage over, not negotiable, don’t come home. I haven’t spoken to her since… Read more »